A Parent’s Guide to Dealing with Difficult Teenage Daughters

Parent’s Guide to Dealing with Difficult Teenage Daughters

Adolescence can be a difficult phase in life. During their teens, girls are trying to figure out their identity, express themselves, and establish independence. Unfortunately, in some cases, teen girls can get argumentative, rebellious, or spiteful. Eventually, making it difficult for parents to deal with them.

In this blog, we have discussed a few teenage girls’ problems and how to understand your teenage daughter as a parent.

Understanding the Teenage Brain

Puberty has a powerful impact on a teenager’s life. The period brings a roller-coaster ride of new experiences and mood changes. The teenage brain is like an entertainment centre whose wires are loose or not yet hooked up.


The DVD player has not been connected to the speaker system. And the player has not been arranged to work with the Television. As far as the remote control is concerned, it has not even arrived yet!

In the above context, the remote control is the prefrontal cortex. This part of the brain forms judgments, analyses outcomes, and controls impulses and emotions. However, in the case of your teenage daughter, all of these have not been properly fused yet.

It precisely indicates that teen girls get easily frustrated with themselves and the surrounding environment. The ever-changing external situations make them impulsive and subject to mood swings.

Teenage daughters can get impulsive.

But if you understand the biological basis of such a difficult behaviour, peace can be easily lodged in your relationship. So, let us know a few of the significant teenage girls’ problems and learn how to understand your teenage daughter.

1. Puberty

Puberty is nature’s way of transforming children into adults. In girls, it tends to start around the age of 11-12. Puberty brings along physical and emotional development in teens. It can trigger many changes, including menstruation, breast formation, height growth, acne, and body odour. In this case, teen girls become vulnerable to the sudden shifts and eventually become difficult to deal with.

How Can You Help:

  • Take the initiative and strike a conversation, and guide your daughter about the bodily changes she might encounter.
  • Share important knowledge about periods/menstruation cycle to best prepare her for the first period. 
  • Help your daughter feel more confident and comfortable in her skin.

2. Friendships

Part of growing up is choosing one’s own friends. As a teenage girl, her friendships become a haven, and she can pull away from her parents. Even before you realize it, your daughter has already joined other girls she thinks she can gel with. Besides, you might notice, your daughter’s friend gang not only dress alike, but they also behave alike, share some secret rituals or codes. In such cases, every parent gets insecure and disapproves of certain friendships, making the teenager a rebel!

Teenage friendships

How Can You Help:

  • If you do not like her peer group, invite them over and get to know them as well. It will help you understand your daughter’s company.
  • If you think your daughter’s friends may lead her into danger, voice your concerns about her safety clearly and firmly. So that she understands the reason behind your protection. 
  • If she is spending too much time online with her friends, make sure to oversee her screen time, social media accounts, and her online pals (if you suspect an unknown friendship).

3. Self-esteem & Body Image

Puberty can develop self-esteem issues and an obsession with body image. As a teenager, your daughter may not have the ability to decide for herself, and she might end up in danger. Moreover, a teen girl can feel pressured to be sufficiently attractive, socially adept, talented, or loved at home.  As a result, her self-esteem can drop dramatically in high school. 

As with body image, teen girls tend to focus more on their physical appearance. With rising trends of perfect bodies on social media, teens get easily attracted to fancy make-up, crash diets and workouts. If they fail to meet the trend, they end up losing confidence and being isolated.

How Can You Help:

  • Encourage your daughter to be true to herself and her origins. 
  • If she feels pressured, listen to her problems. Respect her dreams, ideas, thoughts, and feelings.   
  • Help her create a positive self-image and explain the teenage bodily changes and what it needs.

4. Rebellion

One of the major teenage girls’ problems is rebellion. Striving for independence triggers a rebellious attitude in the quest of who they are as independent people. The rebel perception depends on the independent opinions their parents have about them while growing up. Parents who exert extreme control over their daughter’s self-expression can create a teenage rebellion.

Teenage rebellion

How Can You Help:

  • Create an environment that does not push her to act inappropriately but still fosters her need for independence. 
  • Help her define the difference between disobeying the rules and having her ideas.   
  • Set clear rules and boundaries and help her apply them consistently without suppressing her needs.

5. Mood Swings & Isolation

Extreme changes in hormones during adolescence plays a significant role in your teenage daughter’s emotional journey. A study revealed that teen girls showed extreme variations in happiness and sadness levels. They have not yet developed the correct perspective about life’s experiences. Hence, they are subject to getting stressed, moody, and even depressed. It can lead to extreme isolation in a few teens.

How Can You Help:

  • If your daughter feels moody, anxious, or isolated, help her identify her problems clearly and share your perspective. 
  • Seek a mental health professional if her symptoms get extreme and lead to depression.   
  • Do not wait for your daughter to reach out. Being supportive and sharing healthy coping skills will help her fight the hard times.


Remember your teenage life and have empathy for your daughter, however difficult she might seem. Adolescence is a time filled with rapid changes, but it does not have to be a time of war. She needs you even if she is not vocal about it. Stay positive with her and enjoy the unique person your teen is becoming!


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